I do not travel all over the world to exotic locations with famous people, I don’t drive a Mercedes-Benz, I don’t have millions in the bank, I don’t drink champagne nor do I own a yacht ( I get sea-sick anyway), my closest friends aren’t celebrities or posh people, they are sincere, fun and what I would call a ‘real’ friend and I love doing life with them, I don’t have hundreds and hundreds of ‘friends’ (and I say that lightly because there’s another blog on: “Who are your ‘real’ friends”), I have the challenges in life that everyone does ..and I am still very happy and love my life..
Here are just 9 points that I’ve learned about living well:
- You need very little to be happy: Some simple plant food, modest shelter, a couple changes of clothes, a good book, a notebook, some meaningful work that you love to do and some loved ones. You know, a smile when your walking someone can make their day and it doesn’t cost you anything and I reckon it would make your day better as well.
- Want little and you are not poor: You can have a lot of money and possessions, but if you always want more, you are poorer than the guy who has little and wants nothing. In today’s society, the modern is – we are always wanting more ‘stuff’….Stuff clogs your life, it pushes you down and you feel like you’re in a race to compete to see how much you have in life; this is unhealthy and it can put so much stress in your life.
- Focus on the present: Stop worrying about the future and holding onto the past. How much of your day is spent thinking about things other than where you are and what you’re doing, physically at this moment? How often are we living as opposed to stuck thinking about other things? Live now and you live fully.
- Be happy with what you have and where you are: Too often we want to be somewhere else, doing something else with other people than whoever we’re with right now, getting things other than what we already have. But where we are is great! Who we’re with (including just ourselves) is already perfect. What we have is enough. What we’re doing already is amazing.
- Be grateful for the small pleasures in life: Berries, a square of dark chocolate, tea — simple pleasures that are so much better than rich desserts, sugary drinks, fried foods if you learn to enjoy them fully. A good book borrowed from the library, a walk with a loved one in the park or on the beach, the fine exertion of a short hard workout, the crazy things your child says, the smile of a stranger, walking barefoot on grass, a moment of quiet as the morning wakens and the world still rests. These little pleasures are living well, without needing much. It’s just the ‘simple’ things in life!
- Be driven by joy and not fear: People are driven by the fear of missing out, or the fear of change, or the fear of losing something. These are not good reasons to do things. Instead, do things because they give you or others joy. Let your work be driven not because you need to support a lifestyle and are afraid of changing it, but by the joy of doing something creative, meaningful, valuable. It’s good to ‘love’ what you are doing in life!
- Practice compassion and being grateful: Compassion for others creates loving, rewarding relationships. Compassion for yourself means forgiving yourself for past mistakes, treating yourself well (including eating well and exercising), loving yourself as you are. Be grateful for who you are and for what you have. There are so many things that you can become involved in both physically and by giving money as well as there much need in this world in every country.
- Forget about productivity and numbers: They matter not at all. If you are driven to do things to reach certain numbers or goals, you have probably lost sight of what’s important. If you are striving to be productive, you are filling your days with things just to be productive, which is a waste of a day. This day is a gift and shouldn’t be crammed with every possible thing — spend time enjoying it and in what you’re doing.
- Bring God into your daily living: I couldn’t begin to tell you where God has been so faithful in many situations within my life where I can look back and see where he has changed things which seemed impossible at the time and he turned them around for good. I could actually write a book on it. God wants a relationship with us. Is that all? Yes, it is very simple and sometimes so many people make it extremely complicated and confusing! For me, I am a really simple person, I like stories and something that I can understand very easily, so I am grateful for my relationship with God and I know that he is with me everyday, helping me to make right decisions. Sometimes I mess up and I am definitely not perfect, but he is always forgiving and he loves me unconditionally and therefore I will be eternally grateful!
There is so much more to say on this topic but I hope I have covered some plain basics and truths for you that I believe are crucial to living well .
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